Dating or Nah?
- Jaleigha Marie
- Jan 3, 2018
- 3 min read

Ahhhhhh might as well jump the gun on this one. We all love a good old fashioned “what are we?” situation (NOT). Let’s be honest no one likes to play games and wonder what the hell they or the next person for that matter is doing.
The way I see it this lovely generation has trouble finding a label and sticking to it! Why is it so hard for you to voice what it is you want? You want sex? Say it. You want marriage? Say it. Why play tit for tat? Then, the worst of them all are the ones who just think they can have it all. That is where my "I think the fuck not" cap comes in. Why would you think you can have me and someone else? I am NOT okay with that. Now, don't get me wrong there are plenty of people who are and of course this is a free judgement zone, but I do wonder what is going through their mind?
We are going to skip ahead a little (you know I couldn’t wait) let’s talk about labels. Now, while I am the traditional just ask me out and let me decide for myself gal (you know I would actually like to be the girlfriend promoted to wife). I know that there are many people who are okay with others stating their claim. Let me be the first to tell you I am not with that at all. I know, I know but just hear me out. I am only speaking from experience here. Letting people just lay claim can get very messy very quick. I say that because I have seen it and been in it where someone will lay claim, but still do what they want when they want. No communication, no real love, and no type of loyalty.
Okay, back to labels. Mind you I have taken a year of dating and sex I have been being a little more careful. I have been seeing a lot of “well I am not sure what we are” I personally feel it should never be that way. I had a smart soul tell me you should always be real right off the top. Let that person know what’s up and what they are getting into. Give them the choice to deal with your fuckery. Don’t have them trapped in a crazy cycle of hurt, anger, and confusion. You should never have to ask “what are we?”. Take into consideration that treating you the way you want to be treated doesn’t speak on what the “ship” is. For all you know that someone could be treating the next person the same exact way. Your label could be anything in that situation. Hell, you could have a mash up of labels. Girlfriend, Side Piece, Cousin, Sis-ousin-friend, Boyfriend/Brother. LOL the list could go on. You would not believe what I have heard in the last year.
In the end of it all be careful and know what you are. Don’t be out here looking crazy for no man or woman. AND I KNOW YOU PROBABLY READING THIS AS “KNOW YOUR WORTH” BUT THAT’S NOT WHAT I SAID!!!! LOL. Knowing your worth is great and I am totally for it. That is not what it is always about. It is about knowing where and what you are so that the worth can shine! That person who is "the one" and going to fully 100% commit is going to elevate that worth!!
Take My Word…xoxo
JaLeigha
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